Old Love, New Rules

Not every ending is a failure. Some seasons do their job - then ask us to move.

Celebrity headlines don’t create trends, they reveal them. The swirl around Nicole+Keith (and Hugh+Deb) is a reminder - long marriages can end and still be a success. They made families, homes, memories. Impact counts as much as duration.

My own long marriage ended as I turned 50. Shock, then the spin cycle. What helped wasn’t grand reinvention - it was ordinary choices, repeated. Morning pages before coffee. A walk at sunrise. Real food, regular sleep. One simple boundary I could keep. Bit by bit, I made my home - and my life - mine again.

Grey divorce isn’t scandal, it’s adulthood telling the truth. You can honour what you built and still accept it’s complete. You can keep the rooms that still fit - friendship, family, respect - and add the ones you need now - quiet, purpose, joy. That’s not erasing the past; it’s using it as a launch pad.

If you’re at the beginning, breathe. Name the life you want, protect your foundations and build the small habits that carry you forward. Old keys won’t open new doors - but they did open the ones that brought you here. Now it’s time to walk through the next.