Old Keys, New Doors

Boundaries are keys to connection, not walls of separation.

I keep coming back to this phrase - old keys won’t open new doors.

For a long time, I kept trying. Turning over the same conversations in my head. Repeating the same patterns. Carrying the same “keys” I thought had always worked - effort, over-giving, holding it all together.

But new doors don’t budge when you’re holding the past in your hand.

That’s what boundaries are teaching me. They’re not about shutting people out - they’re about putting down the keys that no longer fit. The people-pleasing key. The proving-myself key. The key that only opens rooms filled with exhaustion, resentment or pain.

New doors can actually be fun. They swing open to salsa steps, unexpected laughter, motorbike lessons, writing, friendships, joy. Boundaries aren’t always heavy lines in the sand. Sometimes they’re playful choices that invite more freedom.

Most importantly, boundaries create space for deeper connection. They don’t inhibit love - they protect it. Without them, relationships collapse under blurred expectations & constant hurt. With them, we create space where love, respect & joy can actually grow.

So I’m putting down the old keys. And with curiosity (and maybe a little courage), I’m trying new ones - the ones that open doors to freedom, fun & connection.

What about you? What old keys have you finally put down & what new doors are waiting?